When a woman is expecting a baby, she has plenty of time and opportunity to explain the situation to her loved ones. She can tell them when the baby’s due, explain her intended birth plan and even, possibly, tell them whether she’s having a boy or girl.


But when you’re adopting, things are a little different. The adoption process is long and complicated, you might not know when the child is going to arrive or even if it’s a certainty. That’s why it can be difficult to explain your reasons for adopting to your loved ones. Adoption in South Africa is becoming increasingly popular, and more people are choosing this option. If you’re one of them, here are some of the things you could think about before telling your loved ones.


Decide who you’re going to tell and when

The adoption process can drag on for months or years. It can be tricky to know when you should tell your loved ones about the adoption. Do you tell them as soon as you’ve made the decision to adopt, when you’ve filled in the paperwork, when the birth mother is on her way to have the baby, or when the child is on its way to you? The decision is a personal choice and will depend on your own circumstances.


Decide what you’re going to say

You’re going to need to have a certain amount of information ready to tell your loved ones. They will likely have a lot of questions and it’s a good idea for you to be prepared to answer them. Some people might ask you questions which seem rude or that you’d never dream of asking. You need to make a decision from the start about whether you’ll entertain these questions with polite responses or immediately shut them down.


Decide what you’re willing to listen to

Not all people will react to your news with positivity. Some of them will need some education on what exactly an adoption entails. Others might need an attitude adjustment to fully embrace your choice. Some people are going to feel the need to tell you every single bad adoption story they’ve ever heard. You need to decide where you’re going to draw the line.

About The Author

I was born in the Eastern Cape, close to the waves. After getting my degree in Media, Communication and Culture, I knew it was time to make my way to a big city. Not wanting to leave the ocean, Cape Town was the natural choice for me. At first I thought the fast paced world of marketing. But I never forgot that what I'd always wanted to do was write. Now I'm a freelance writer, where my office is my bedroom and my platform is the World Wide Web. I live with my partner and our two beloved Great Danes. When not reading or writing you can probably find me on the beach or exploring nature trails.

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