What does it mean to be happy?

Happiness is the fulfillment of whatever is perceived to be important and partly missing in a person’s life. This missingness is sometimes called a void and the filling of that void is satiation sometimes called happiness. Happiness can range from immediate gratifying pleasures to long term gratifying meaningful objectives, goals or dreams. The more meaningful they are, the greater the fulfilment. The more transient pleasure seeking they are, the less the fulfilment. Every human being has a unique set of voids and values and therefore their happiness will be unique.

 Is it important to be happy?

Happiness in the form of a deeply meaningful fulfillment can help us become grateful, inspired, feel purposeful and strengthen our desire to contribute to humanity. Every human being wants to love and appreciate those that they perceive have contributed to their lives and to be loved and appreciated for who they are. Who they are is an expression of their highest values and the fulfillment of their highest values is the greatest form of ‘happiness’ they can obtain.

 How does happiness impact our well being?

When we ‘happily’ fulfill our highest values, we become most objective, centered, present, poised and empowered. Our brain’s executive center comes online and self-governs and envisions, strategizes and executes what inspires us most. This self-governing capacity moderates extreme emotional biases and volatilities and governs our autonomic nervous system, which regulates our physiology. So when we are most fulfilled and inspired, we bring about wellness and wholeness. When we are unfulfilled, unhappy, we become volatile, emotional and our amygdala comes online and expresses our stress response, generating illness. Our illness is a feedback to guide us back to live according to our highest values or priorities where we are most fulfilled. So illness and be perceived as diseases of meaning.

 What is the physical reaction to happiness?

When we are happily fulfilled because we are more objective and even mindedness or balanced, our autonomic nervous system comes into balance. We initiate physiological homeostasis and allostasis. Since our central nervous system is the master controller and governor of our entire body, our physiology works coherently and smoothly and gracefully to help us fulfill what is most meaningful to us. Our brain is a highest value ‘telos’ seeking and fulfilling organ. It is doing everything that it can to help us fulfil our lives and it governs our physiology to assist us to do that. Therefore our meaningful happiness spontaneously emerges when we are most authentic.

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