UNDERSTANDING MY PERSONALITY Understanding My Personality Archetypes are at the fabric of personality development and relationship dynamics. Our relationship with ourselves and others is influenced by underlying patters of personality types. Understanding your personality can alert you to your blind-spots, and assist with relationships when facing other personality types. An archetypal pattern which I have found useful to explore with my clients is that of inner child, parent and adult. We all have an inner child, and inner parent and potentially an inner adult. What is most interesting about this dynamic is that the inner adult archetype can only arise when the inner child and the inner parent are balanced. When they are off balance it affects our relationships. The adult archetype is missing when either the inner child or inner parent is suppressed or asserted. The adult archetype is empowered and emotionally equipped to face life with grace. The parent and child archetype can move into a destructive lack of balance at any stage in life; for many, even as early as childhood. A child with a suppressed child archetype: Tries to parent the parents Takes on too much responsibility for their age Loses their natural spontaneity of being a child Finds it difficult to be free, open and to receive love An adult person who gets stuck in a child archetype: Struggles with responsibility Would be especially challenged if faced with the task of becoming a parent If you have children it is especially important to heal your inner child so that you do not burden your children with choices are that inappropriate for their age by trying to avoid the burdens of those choices yourself In conclusion: The parent and child archetype have nothing to do with actual age, or having children or not, but everything to do with INNER LIFE and PERSONALITY. You can heal your inner parent/child at any age. You can heal your inner parent/child regardless of whether you have children or not. If you lack child here are some activities you can engage in: If you lack parent here are some activities you can engage in: Playing a game To do lists Laughing Taking care of someone or something Letting go of time Facing reality Looking at things with fresh eyes Looking at detail Opening the heart Not following the crowd Leave a Reply Cancel Reply You must be logged in to post a comment.