Every one of us deserve to live our best life. And yet we get busy being busy, navigating the daily obstacles instead of defining our own path.

It only takes ourselves, as in me, myself and I, to sit down and commit to reevaluating the things that count and are most important to us o that we can forge this path of purpose.

Some questions, exercises and guidelines that can assist getting it done in a way that is authentic and relevant.


  1. Who am I – right now? 

In order to answer that question, we need to understand that our needs change. And the best way to define what those are would be to define your highest values. Dr John Demartini has a great evaluation form that is quick and easy to establishing an idea for you as to what the highest driving motivators are in your life right now.



  1. Where do I want to go? 

Goal setting is an important method of

  • Deciding what you want to achieve in your life.
  • Separating what’s important from what’s irrelevant, or a distraction.
  • Motivating yourself.
  • Building your self-confidence, based on successful achievement of goals.


Set your lifetime goals first. Then, set a five-year plan of smaller goals that you need to complete if you are to reach your lifetime plan. Keep the process going by regularly reviewing and updating your goals. And remember to take time to enjoy the satisfaction of achieving your goals when you do so.

If you don’t already set goals, do so, starting now. As you make this technique part of your life, you’ll find your career accelerating, and you’ll wonder how you did without it!



I have always used a LIFE WHEEL map to assist me when setting my goals

You can change up the headings as you see fit but here are the basics


Professional / Career – What do you want to achieve as a professional? Right now? Down the line?


Financial – How do you define wealth. What assets and financial achievements will bring satisfaction to you living your best life?


Education – Is there any knowledge you want to acquire in particular? What information and skills will you need to have in order to achieve other goals?


Family – what are your relationships like within your Family tree? Which relations are happy and which are not? What do you need to do to get the family dynamic to thrive?


Relationships – where does love and friendship fit in to your life? What kind of quality is there with who.


Mentors / Leadership – where do you get your mojo from, food for the spirit and soul.


Physical – Are there any fitness goals that you want to achieve, or do you want good health deep into old age? What steps are you going to take to achieve this?


Pleasure – How do you want to enjoy yourself? (You should ensure that some of your life is for you!)


Making a difference / Legacy / Active Citizenship – Do you want to make the world a better place? If so, how?


Under each one of these to extract what you actually need to get the goals in each area of your life achieved complete the following








Attitude – Is any part of your mindset holding you back? Is there any part of the way that you behave that upsets you? (If so, set a goal to improve your behavior or find a solution to the problem.)


  1. What motivates me?

According to the resource; Mindtools here are some provoking questions that will help you better understand what gets you out of bed in the morning. What raises your motivation Are you able to get excited about every task you need to do? Or do you sometimes need a bit more help to make a start, never mind getting the task done? Maybe you’re continuing to ignore those overflowing filing cabinets, instead of taking some time out to reorganize them.

Or, you’re avoiding that difficult conversation with a person who is always late, choosing instead to tolerate the tardiness. Perhaps you keep rearranging your priorities, so that the tasks you hate always end up at the bottom of the list.

The longer you delay doing something, the more stress and pressure you’re likely to feel. After a while, you may even start to lose confidence in your ability to complete the task at all.

Many of us sometimes need help getting motivated. And it can be very frustrating when we know we have to do something, but we just can’t get around to making a start.


Motivation Basics

There are essentially two types of motivation:

  • Intrinsic motivation – This is when you are motivated by “internal” factors to meet your own personal needs. Most hobbies and leisure activities are based on intrinsic motivation. We do them because we enjoy them, not because we have to.
  • Extrinsic motivation – This is when you are motivated by “external” factors that are given or controlled by others, for example, by salary or by praise. Our jobs are usually based on extrinsic motivation, although there will be some intrinsic motivation involved if you enjoy aspects of what you do.

Most situations at work involve both types of motivation. If we do a job we enjoy, some of the work we do will be intrinsically motivating. Realistically though, we probably wouldn’t go to work if we weren’t being paid! Enjoying your job is intrinsically motivating, while being paid a salary to do it is extrinsically motivating.

Even if we do a job we enjoy, problems can crop up when we need to do something that we don’t inherently like – such as filing, speaking with staff about performance issues, completing reports, and so on. We have to do undesirable tasks as part of our job, so we have to find a way to motivate ourselves to complete them. That’s where self-motivation is necessary.

Answer this

What motivates me?

To motivate myself I must…?


Be careful of negative thinking – equip your mind with positive affirmations

Check out Louise Hay’s books and type affirmations into pinterest to get some ideas.

These mantras should be said several times a day to dispel any negative angst standing in your way.


Staying on Course

Once you’ve decided on your first set of goals, keep the process going by reviewing and updating your To-Do List on a daily basis.

Periodically review the longer term plans, and modify them to reflect your changing priorities and experience. (A good way of doing this is to schedule regular, repeating reviews using a computer-based diary.)



A useful way of making goals more powerful is to use the SMART  mnemonic. While there are plenty of variants (some of which we’ve included in parenthesis), SMART usually stands for:

S – Specific (or Significant).

M – Measurable (or Meaningful).

A – Attainable (or Action-Oriented).

R – Relevant (or Rewarding).

T – Time-bound (or Trackable).


For example, instead of having “to sail around the world” as a goal, it’s more powerful to use the SMART goal “To have completed my trip around the world by December 31, 2017.” Obviously, this will only be attainable if a lot of preparation has been completed beforehand!


Evaluating progress

Are you sticking to the plan?

How can your plan be improved?

Have you needed to use Plan B?

If so, how did that work out for you?

Where can you improve on your orginal plan?

Do you need to modify anywhere?

If so, are they working better for you

Have your results met your expectations so far?

If not, why not?


What can you do to improve your results (go back to the orginal who, why, where, when, how, can you add to it?)


Good luck!!


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Michelle Korevaar

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