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As a woman, you’ve probably experienced some unwanted attention at some point in your life. By now you’ve probably received a few lewd comments from random strangers on the side of the road or encountered a person who won’t leave you alone when you’re trying to have a drink with friends. It’s a reality that shouldn’t exist. Especially not in 2016.
Unwanted attention is not something you should have to deal with. It can stop you from wanting to go to certain places and, in extreme circumstances, seriously impact the way you live your life. So, here is some advice on how to deal with unwanted attention.
If it’s a stranger
If it’s a strange person on the side of the road you may want to ignore them if it’s just a passing comment. If there aren’t many people around they could get physical or dangerous. It’s important that you assess your surroundings first. If you’re sure you’re safe, you can tell the person to leave you alone. If you’re alone and they follow you, you should get to the nearest place with people as soon as you can. Phoning a friend can be helpful because you can let them know your location and the person may go away knowing that someone is aware of the situation.
If it’s someone you know
If it’s an ex-partner who won’t get the message, you need to deal with the situation as soon as possible. Tell them directly that it’s over and they need to leave you alone. Let them know that it’s never going to happen and you want nothing to do with them. Don’t leave them with any hope. They may take any contact as a sign that there’s a chance you’ll forgive them or get back together. If you’re afraid they’ll get violent, you should go to the police and get a restraining order. If that doesn’t work, you need to seek legal advice and take the matter further.
If it’s at work
If someone you work with is giving you unwanted attention, you need to deal with that situation as soon as possible. You don’t want their feelings for you to interfere with your job performance. And if the situation gets worse, it will. So, first approach them and let them know you’re not interested. If they carry on then you need to go to your superior and let them know. If that doesn’t work you should lay a formal complaint and make sure the company takes the appropriate action.